How our frame of mind can affect our self confidence.
Life is not all plain sailing. Indeed, hardship, trials and tribulations are part and parcel of our lives. Encountering problems is not a bad thing, what matters is the way we deal with it. A positive frame of mind is vital for so many reasons. Positive thinking is proven to improve performance in productivity and quality. We are typically more confident and do better if we are feeling positive and well.
There are biological examples of this. A positive frame of mind is due to enhanced amounts of neuro transmitters such as serotonin that regulate the efficiency abilities of the mind. The knock results of a positive frame of mind also include enhanced wellbeing not only enhanced mental health but better in the physical sense aswell. This is because of the boost to the immune system that a positive frame of mind can give you.
The opposite is also true, if we are depressed we are a lot more liable to contracting other diseases and mental health issues. Our interaction with other people deteriorate, we begin to think irrationally and our confidents can drop. In short this is a frame of mind that is best to avoid at all costs. Feeling depressed ever so often is not unusual but how we decide to face an issue comes from our state of mind.
A positive mental attitude is also about giving you a can do attitude. Individuals who think positively are more likely to see challenges as opposed to issues or opportunities as opposed to difficulties. For instance, entrepreneurs who are successful usually are because they are able to spot opportunities for progress in a marketplace which others only see troubles in. The positive mental attitude of a successful person means that opportunity becomes a reality; because they also have the drive and motivation to ensure success and make their vision come true. So as you can see there is much to be gained from a positive mental attitude. The issue for many people is in developing one in the first place.
Developing a positive frame of mind is not some new aged trend. For ages religious men and scholars alike searched for and created approaches to harness an inner tranquility. While this may have begun to make mankind closer to god the essence of this idea is just as relevant nowadays. That a positive frame of mind makes us closer to the divine while a negative frame of mind can only lead us in to ways of being which are a detriment to our lives. Monks realised this long ago which is why they devote themselves to a life of abstinence and mental and spiritual fulfilment.
One of the easiest ways to determine your frame of mind is to think of how you are with other people. A good way to do this is to picture how you behave towards people you do not know. Are you confident and open to meeting and talking with people? Or are you insular and shy. Believe it or not one of the best ways to overcome a negative frame of mind is to change your frame of mind towards the world around you and that means the people in it too. If you are generally uneasy around other people then try this experiment.
One night force yourself to strike up a conversation at random in a public place. Do not worry about how you look or appear or what you discuss. A reference about the weather or anything will do. Just try it and note how you feel afterwards.
You see, the way you are with other people will influence the opportunities you get offered. Consider it like this who is the most likely to get a job between two people of equal ability and experience except for one difference, One is uptight and uncomforable with other people and the other is laid back and comfortable with other people. If I was the boss I know which one I would pick for the Job.
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